Perimenopause Help

Question by Jess: Is it normal to lose your sex drive? (female, in a relationship)?
I’ve never had this problem before but for the last 1 or 2 months it’s just been disappearing and I haven’t had an orgasm for about a month or so! I love my boyfriend, but at the moment we don’t have the most exciting relationship, he is always busy etc and we didn’t even celebrate our anniversary in the end. I would never cheat on him but a new friend recently told me they really like me, and I find them very attractive but I would never go there even if i were single as they’re also very arrogant. I’m sure this hasn’t affected how I feel about my boyfriend but he is worried it has.
Also we were going away for our next birthday together but for money and family reasons he no longer wants to go, I know it’s just a little thing but it really upset me as I was really looking forward to it and I feel bad for being so annoyed/upset over it.
If it has come down to loving and feeling really comfortable with my boyfriend, but little else, would it be wrong to leave him? we are only 20 and if it doesn’t change, which it probably won’t as we are both studying for a few more years, it doesn’t seem like enough, but is that shallow? Is it probably just because of my relationship that I’m suddenly lacking in sex drive so much, or is it more probably something else?
Thanks!

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Answer by Kay Bee
I dont’ have any desire for it if I don’t like how it is done.

There are also times when I am just tired and exhausted.

Then there are times when I am annoyed at him or something else in my life.

Also, it can get monotonous if you go at it every week or everyday like it is food.

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Question by : Does my boyfriends libido seem high to you guys?
When I spend time with my boyfriend, he seems to want sex constantly. He’s all over me before we fall asleep and when we wake up in the mornings, which isn’t unusual but if we’re alone during the day he’ll ask for sex around 4-5 times a day. This seems quite high to me and he quite often leaves me feeling sore and bruised. When I don’t feel up to it, he often pressures me into sex or masturbates. Does anyone have any advice on reducing his libido to make it more comfortable for me to be around him?

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Answer by Shae
um yeah of course

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Question by Leticia: Is there any kind of supplement that I can slip in my husband’s protein shakes to help increase his libido?
My husband is 40 years old and although we have regular sex it’s not as frequent as I’d like it to be. We both work out alot so I’m wondering if there is any kind of supplements that someone can recommend to me that will help increase his libido. Natural supplements no viagra suggestions please.

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Answer by Jess W.
There is a drink called “Niagra.” I’ve only seen it in stores once in my life, but supposedly it tastes great and increases your libido. It doesn’t have an effect on you like Viagra does, it just makes you horny. I’ve personally never tried it though. I’m sure you could look it up on google or something though. Good luck!

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Question by : I’m an 18 year old female college student and my sex drive is unusually high. Help?
I really don’t understand why my sex drive has increased so much lately.. I mean it’s outrageous! I guess I need to find a FWB or Boyfriend soon.. Anybody know what could be the source of this increase??

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Answer by Lily Lovee
sounds like hormones to me

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Question by egn18s: Women’s opinion about male sex-drive?
Considering how women often complain about being hit on by men and the way men always want sex, my questions are: Would women prefer it if men in general were much less horny? What might be some down sides for women if men were less horny? Are there any women out there that actually like the way men are so horny?

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Answer by Nateface
women are just as horney.

hornier. They just show it in different ways.

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Question by : How can I lower my sex drive (female)?
Are there any foods to eat or avoid or herbal remedies or certain types of exercise or anything you can think of that can reduce a lady’s sex drive? Or is it just learning to control your own mind? I know that sex is healthy but I always always always end up getting hurt (and I’m pretty picky with who I sleep with!) I turn into a horrendous flirt when I’m drunk and usually embarrass myself. I’ve become scared of having sex with anybody new but my sex drive is raging! It’s probably normal for my age but I wish I could clear my head of boys and fantasy and just get on with my own life. Drives me insane….
By the way, I masturbate several times a day!

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Answer by Sláinte xxxx
Just masturbate to relieve the tension & it will help you & safer to relieve yourself & very healthy as keeps you young & smiling & gets rid of tension. It is best to get to know someone first before getting involved as they could be a psycho & if you are already involved sexually hard to walk away ……exercise gets rid of tension… hormones go through the roof as get older & sex drive increases, tell me about it ……….makes me laugh when people say men have stronger sex urges as lots of women are the same

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Question by Lex: No sex drive (female)?
I’ve asked about this kind of thing before but I can’t fix this and I feel abnormal.

I’m a 15 year old girl and I have absolutely no sex drive at all. I’m not on any medications (well, I have topical junk from the dermatologist but does that count? Anyway, I’m not on BC, I’ve never had an orgasm before, and masturbation does nothing for me. I can’t get horny at all. Just to throw it in there, I’ve officially recognized myself as bisexual. I know, weird considering I don’t get horny from looking at people, but whatever.

I have a boyfriend of a year and 7mos now, and I love him. I’ll admit though, I’m not really physically attracted to him (but then again, I don’t get horny/physicall attracted to people a lot so it’s really not an issue) Sometimes we have spats, but nothing to be really stressed over. We’ve had sex, but I didn’t get anything out of it so we stopped doing that.

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I used to let him try to get me off, but lately I’ve been stopping him from touching me because I always feel like complete crap/gross afterwards. It’s gotten to a point where I feel gross just kissing him. What?

What can this be? I’m just so used to sexual things that nothing phases me at all? I’m hormonally imbalanced and have to wait until I can go see a gyno on my own? I’m actually fullout lesbian? (Which is false, so…)

What’s wrong with me? And what can I do? All my girlfriends my age are horny all the time, I feel like I’m broken.
Also, It’s not because I feel guilty or anything. I’m not religious, I dont have any reason to feel guilty, I’m open about sexual stuff. So please don’t suggest that.
Sorry to be confusing;
I am attracted to both genders, just in VERY rare cases for both and it happens very little.

ALSO To the doll girl, so do I XD;; Well, collect, but still.

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Answer by VB.NET Guru
Go see your gynecologist or family physician. You probably have a chemical inbalance in your system. It is time to find out what is going on with your body.

At your age, you should have raging hormones, and be horny a lot, and enjoy sex and/or masturbation.

Good luck.

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Question by spiritofprohecy: What natural ways can I improve my libido and sex drive?
Hi, i am turning 24 this year and since my teenage years i have noticed that my sex drive is lowering and so is my libido! I don’t get as hard as i use to and i don’t get as many errections as i use too! When i first was going out with my girlfriend i use to always get an errection, once even because she held my hand… now i believe because i have gotten use to all this, sexual stuff too… my drive and libido has gone down… i also masterbate like all males do… should i reduce masterbation and what natural stuff can i take to increase my libido and errections?

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Answer by * *
you could try damiana in water, it takes a week to become active or horny goat weed or even a good adult film for you both to watch.

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Question by Kaliko: Are there ANY natural products that actually increase sex drive in a female?

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Answer by Sage Mountain
Schisandra chinensis-wu wei zi
Schizandra is a famous tonic historically consumed by Chinese royalty. It is an excellent sexual tonic when consumed regularly. It is said to help produce abundant sexual fluids, increase sexual endurance and to strengthen the whole body.

Epimedium spp.-yin yang huo-Horny Goat Weed
Epimedium is a powerful sexual tonic and Asian people consider it an aphrodisiac.

Turnera diffusa-Damiana
Traditionally used as a aphrodisiac, especially for women, Damiana supports Kidney Essence and has a restorative effect on the central nervous system.

Dendrobium-she hu-Orchid
This variety of Chinese orchid is an excellent Yin tonic and longevity herb. It is said to quickly and effectively replace spent “adaptive energy. Dendrobium helps keep the skin moist and helps generate beautiful skin.

Gynostemma pentaphyllum- jiao gu lan
Gynostemma is used to slow down aging and to prevent feebleness and senility; to reduce fatigue, to increase vigor; to improve digestion; to strengthen the mind; and to improve sex functions. It generally reinforces overall health and is viewed as a virtual “cure-all” in Asia.

Cervus nippon-lu rong-Deer antler
It is widely used in Asia to strengthen adrenal, reproductive and brain functions. It is universally believed in the Orient to build sexual strength and to increase virility and fertility.

Morinda officinalis-ba ji tian-Morinda Root and Vine
It is widely used in impotence formulations as it increases sexual strength in men and women. It tonifies the Kidney energy and corrects soreness of the lower back and knees, and joint pain. It is used by women for infertility and frigidity. Morinda is used widely in China to increase mental power.

Cuscuta chinensis-tu si zi-Cuscuta
Cuscuta is gentle tonic for the Kidney Yin and Yang. It nourishes and consolidates Kidney Qi. It is widely used to improve vision, nourish the sperm and marrow, strengthen bones and sinews. It strengthens sexual functions, prevents miscarriages, relieves vaginal dryness and soothes anxiety associated with sex.

Cinnamomum cassia-rou gui-Cinnamon bark
Cinnamon bark is a strong essence tonic that promotes circulation and warms internal energy; it is said that it leads energy back to the source, or Kidney. Cinnamon bark increases the Yang energy and sexual vitality.

Cynomorium-suo yang
Cynomorium is a superb tonic to the primal yang essence and is used in many tonics for both men and women. It is widely believed in the Orient to be a superb longevity herb and an excellent sexual tonic and stimulant.

I worked in a hormonal clinic where women used progesterone cream, but when tested they had often over-done it and created more problems. Also, women were using testosterone, but there were often nasty side effects like insomnia and facial hair.

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Question by Michelle: Dp some women have enough testosterone in the body (as much as an average male) to adopt a similar sex drive?
Both men and women have testosterone in the body, but men usually have a larger concentration of this hormone. I heard that there were cases where women had the same amount of testosterone as the average male? Is this true? How frequent is this? If so, would the women have a similar sex drive? Would this cause more problems for the women…such as hair growth and increase in agressiveness etc….?

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Answer by cookie8474
well, i dont know if my testostrone levels are different, but i usually have more sex drive and more intrest in sex than males do. Im very competative with males and can get very aggressive when competing and i guess i do act like i have alot of testostrone.

but i have a very female frame, got curves and boobs and not a brown hair on my body and my hair is actually very thin.

hey, thats just me, im just trying to answer the question lol

does this help? http://www.aeron.com/new_page_25.htm

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