Question by Jade196: Female Sex Drive Help?
So, my fiance and I won’t be getting married for a couple of years (until we both finish college and save up enough money). The problem is that neither of us wants to have intercourse until we are married. He definitely expresses that he isn’t ready yet. However, I keep physically desiring to have sex often, although I mentally want to wait. Mostly this happens when we are being intimate in other ways.
My fiance and I are very close, but I feel like every time I bring up the subject of sex, he feels uncomfortable, so I can’t even talk to him about that sort of thing. He knows how I feel and we’ve talked about it, but he does not have my problems. He is easily able to control these urges without having to put forth a lot of effort and doesn’t feel a need to talk about it. He doesn’t understand why I have such trouble and thinks I should do as he does (AKA: be master of mental meditation).
Now, I’m not looking for comments like “does he still have his manly parts”, “you must be a dog”, or any such junk.
What I ask for is some advice on how to deal with these urges constructively. I’m not into self loving (doesn’t tickle my proverbial fancy). I don’t watch porn. I just don’t like it (doesn’t do anything for me). I only want my fiance, but I want him too much! I don’t want to hurt the one I love in any way, but this is just hard to deal with. I need ideas…
Help?
What I ask is a simple way to deal with
Btw, RJ, be more careful with what you say.
My fiance was raped when he was young. That’s part of why he’s uncomfortable about having sex.
I 100% will never push him. That’s why I’m trying to not bring up the subject too much. That’s why I’m trying to deal with my own problems on my own. I am letting him have his space and heal. I will be there for him, but I am going to deal with my own desires for me as well.
That’s why I’m asking for some ideas anonymously.
Also, we are currently enjoying oral stimulation and manual stimulation if that helps you with your answers.
Best answer:
Answer by starstrukk
Well, when you say that you don’t want intercourse until marriage, that leaves out oral and manual stimulation, right? You could rely on those to get you through the next few years and deal with those urges.
If you want to save that, too, well, you’re SOL.
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