Perimenopause Help

Question by justlookin4friendsonly: Is getting dry during sex with my husband another sign of perimenopause?
I’ve had other signs of perimenopause, I’m 36, he’s 41. It got SOOO painful it hurt him, then me! I need to go to my midwife soon. I’ve also been experiencing symptoms of pregnancy.
Is there ANYTHING my midwife can prescribe for the dryness?

It’s affecting my relationship, we hardly have sex anymore & my husband said he’s losing interest & I feel guilty, though I know I can’t control it, I know it’s affecting both of us.

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Answer by fyre girl
I would definitely approach your midwife about the possibility of pregnancy. I don’t think that getting dry is a sign of menopause. I mean, there are teenagers out there that get dry all the time. There are also MANY women of the ages 18-45 that get dry while having sex. I would suggest some lube or something to help with the dryness. I hope that helps you out.

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He’s really embarrassed about it and he won’t go to the doctor. He wakes up in the night and his whole body is frozen with fear and he can’t speak and won’t look at me.

HE IS NOT ON DRUGS.

This has been happening for almost a week, will he get over it? What can I do?
does anyone know what is causing it?

Tonight this is what he did…….He had told me earlier in the day that our dog peed on a chair in our living room. I asked him to show me where. Instead of getting up to show me he tries to point it out from across the room where he is sitting with our two little girls. He says it is on the side of the chair so I ask is it right here and he says “is that the side” and I say yes and he says no its not its on the side and I say oh right here and he again repeats himself and I am now getting frustrated b/c instead of just getting up to show me he starts playing games with me and asking me questions in a 20 question format to try to find the pee. I am going through perimenopause right now and am also in the process of weaning myself from Paxil. Needless to say I am very sensitive and he is very aware of this. During his 20 question game he is playing I finally get frustrated and scream “stop it” and he continued with his 20 question game and I finally yell “shut up” and storm out of the house into the garage to try to cool down. I do not often scream around my kids and I am feeling so ashamed of my actions in front of them, on the other hand I am very mad at him for being so insensitive during this difficult emotional time I am going through. Am I just the biggest *** in the world or should I just forgive myself for my actions in front of my kids and move on?

Tonight this is what he did…….He had told me earlier in the day that our dog peed on a chair in our living room. I asked him to show me where. Instead of getting up to show me he tries to point it out from across the room where he is sitting with our two little girls. He says it is on the side of the chair so I ask is it right here and he says “is that the side” and I say yes and he says no its not its on the side and I say oh right here and he again repeats himself and I am now getting frustrated b/c instead of just getting up to show me he starts playing games with me and asking me questions in a 20 question format to try to find the pee. I am going through perimenopause right now and am also in the process of weaning myself from Paxil. Needless to say I am very sensitive and he is very aware of this. During his 20 question game he is playing I finally get frustrated and scream “stop it” and he continued with his 20 question game and I finally yell “shut up” and storm out of the house into the garage to try to cool down. I do not often scream around my kids and I am feeling so ashamed of my actions in front of them, on the other hand I am very mad at him for being so insensitive during this difficult emotional time I am going through. Am I just the biggest *** in the world or should I just forgive myself for my actions in front of my kids and move on?

Is there some sort of test or symptoms? I’ve heard it could be a bad thing, specifically weight problems.
If he has too much, how can we lower it?