Perimenopause Help

Question by Frustrated Hubby: Can a lost female sex drive return with no medical assistance to full force like it used to be?
My wife lost her sex drive. She is fully aware of this, and of course does not see the probelm with it. After talking breifly about it, she claims that in 3 weeks when she’s done with school, and has less stress ver money, she will get it back. I am freaking out because it has been months since we’ve had a mutuatlly satisfying sex. 1 month since she just layed there for me. She says she just has not drive what so ever. We’ve had issues in the past but now, after talking and switching some things around, everything is all good How can I make her understand how important this is to our relationship? She loves me, she hugs me kisses me, snuggles with me, holds me, all that other intimate stuff, but when the subject of sex or any sexual advances are made by me, it gets her angry.

Give her space. Ok, I do, I give her plenty of it, hell sometiems I’m so resent full I cna’t even stand to look at her, or if I do start touching her, rubbing her back scratching, I stop myself because I don’t want it to go to far and get in an argument. So I can’t talk to her about it. I cook evey night becasue she gets home later than I do, I do my part around the house, I’m always trying to be romantic.

So my question, again, when all is said and done, when she’s less stressed out and over worked, will her sex drive come back naturally, like she says or is she just feeding me BS so I’ll stay with her?

Thanks.
sunbu: You wouldn’t happen to live in PA would you?? I don’t think that’s a good idea, but honestly, it’s enticing to do something rash like that, but I’m a better person than to do that.
Ok bubba, Thanks, but I’d appreciate answers from females, or males who have been in this type of situation.
Kris, Thanks,! But I usually do try to calmly talk about this and how it’s affecting our relationship. But talking baout it makes her angry, sh doesn’t want to talk about it, she wants to wait and see what happens, she doesn’t want to even try to make me happy in that respect, when she doesn she just lays there, or starts with Ok if I do it will you get off my back about it?
Sue B, Thank You, It’s good to hear from someone who is aware that they have this problem, she doesn’t see it as a problem. Unless That is what makes her angry about the subject? Hmmm becasue she wants it back but doesn’t have one and doesn’t know how to get it back….

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Answer by sunbun
find a FWB or move on…sexis definitely a part of marriage….

One of the main reasons I stay single….

typically once one gets marriage the sex slows down considerably

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Question by Kate: Is it common for libido to increase like crazy when pregnant?
Ever since I go pregnant my libido has been through the roof. Is this common or am I the only one? Has anyone else gone through this or is going through it too?
OK, I feel a little better now. But I still feel like it is seriously out of control. How do I know what is normal and what might be a problem?

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Answer by broken_faery_wings13
Mine went down dramatically for the first 3 months but now I can’t get enough!

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Question by Moe: Would men like women if there was no male sex drive?
I think the only reason men like women is because of their own sex drive. Otherwise, what is there to like? Women don’t like going to a bar and watching a football game. They aren’t good at rough and tumble sports. They aren’t as funny and interesting as guys. All they care about are boring items like clothes, homes, food, beauty, and perfume. If it wasn’t for the male sex drive, women would just be stuck with other women.

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Answer by love anyway
Hm, interesting observation.

I would go to a bar with anybody, I yell louder than anybody else at football and basketball games, and I can pack a good punch.

I know better one-liners than guys, I could kick your butt playing soccer, and I’ll talk to anybody about anything.

I still care about my family, and perfume and if I look good, but doing “guy” things doesnt make me any less a woman.

You need to find yourself some more independent women.
Good luck.

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Question by jas30705: Do you feel like you are going crazy when you start menopause?
What are some of the thing that help with menopause. My test came back that I was in menopause. And oh boy do I have anger and crying and feelings of going crazy. I also have anxiety disorder. Any advice?

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Answer by Tapestry6
Just live your life as normal but extra sleep or naps in the afternoon it takes away anxiety and anger. Think of the joy you will feel never having your monthly tormentor again

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Question by justlookin4friendsonly: Is there a test for perimenopause like there’s a test for pregnancy?
I’ve been experiencing pregnancy symptoms, but people have said it could also be perimenopause (I’m 36). My Mom passed 1`2/25/04, so I can’t ask her when she first started menopause and I know my Dad won’t know or remember. I also didn’t test for pregnancy yet.

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Answer by Zambiti
Menopause, aka estrogen dominance, can happen at any age. With our exposure to xenoestrogens, menopause symptoms are occurring earlier and earlier. It really isn’t so much when your mother had it as you probably follow a similar lifestyle to hers, so you would run into estrogen dominance symptoms at about the same age give or take.

Here is a web page with more info and a list of symptoms. http://www.johnleemd.com/store/estrogen_… You don’t have to have all the symptoms, and you may be early on, so this would be the time to nip it in the bud.

You can try natural progesterone, though they sell a really good one at that site, I prefer Progestelle from http://www.womhoo.com If you buy there, you can also get a free evaluation from Dr. Eckhart, and he will reply to your by e-mail personally.

Make sure you use USP progesterone, not pharmaceutical progestin (prescription) though. Progestin does NOT act like your natural progesterone. You can actually test your own hormone levels at http://www.salivatest.com (also linked at Dr. Lee’s site).

I know how frustrated you are, really. I didn’t have the hot flashes, but had the exhaustion, moodiness, headaches, stress or anxiety attacks, irregular bleeding, and more. I was rather miserable by the time I looked up info to see what was happening. I hope you find some help at those links; I did. 4 months on natural progesterone and I’m feeling much better.

If you want, this is a new estrogen dominance Yahoo Group which will have more info and where you can share: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/EstrogenDominance/

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